Your amazing words of truth
Q: Hey Mr. Duncan, I was recently at two of your motivational speakings and I didn't feel comfortable asking my question aloud. So here it is:
You got my attention when you spoke about what you've been through. I've also been through a lot, one exactly like you. And I’ve never told anyone about it, not even my mother.
I am an A+ student but I feel so much pressure to be better than average from others. I get up and down, my grades slip but I always manage to pull off a good grade. I plan on attending college and I know that I won't always be able to pull off this stunt in college. I have dreams and the people who pressure me the most always throw me down by telling me I can't or you think so... I explain everything, but I really need some of your amazing words of truth.
--high school student
Alpha School - Conyers, GA
First of all, I have a tremendous amount of respect for you. You are a very brave, strong, and absolutely amazing young lady. Many adults are unable to deal with a situation like this as well as you have. And on top of all of this you’re an A+ student? Wow!
Secondly, I’m concerned about you keeping too much hurt bottled up inside. At first I never told anyone about what happened to me either. I was too ashamed. I thought it was my fault and that I had done something wrong. Which was simply not true.
Because I was so devastated by what happened, it took me years to deal with the pain and I couldn’t do it by myself. I had to finally talk it over with someone.
You don’t have to put your business out in the streets, but you need to talk to an adult who can help you. If not your Mom, then call The National Sexual Assualt Hotline -- 1-800-656-HOPE.
If you’re still having trouble, send me an email (al [at] alduncan [dot] net) and I’ll help you find someone who specializes in situations like yours. Also, pray. Ask for guidance and you’ll get it.
In regards to the pressure to perform better than average, I feel you. I tend to be a bit a competitive myself, but here’s what I’ve discovered.